By THEODORAH EKAH and TEMITAYO BAMGBOSE
Women are cleverer than men. Did you ever see a woman
marrying a man because he had lovely legs?–Bette Davis
Women are beautiful beings yet complicated creatures.
The male races have long for centuries, chased these beautiful beings since
puberty. They’ve come across all sorts of Jerks(miscreant, Assholes,
fools9rascals, pedophiles, heart breakers, needy guys and guys that just don’t
get it. Unlike the males, females get sexually matured earlier, which
introduces them to the dating scene much earlier than their male counterpart.
Thus, they have badges and stars of experience on their dating uniform. This
makes them quite good at understanding male body languages and intentions even
more than men do of themselves.
Now this article doesn’t cut
across every lady, girl or woman. Some people wonder why women tend to act
indifferent towards both decent and amoral gestures of men. But they never tend
to wonder what it is to be approached in a wrong way by the wrong time in a
wrong manner. The objective of this article is to let you know
why women give you the medusa look and the insensitive response towards your
gestures.
Her want
Women’s perceptions of men are
classified into categories which will be boiled down to three. There are the
boys, guys, and the men. When they come across them, their feminine instinct
appraises them and decides on what category these male folks fall into
automatically. The way a boy thinks and act is quite different from how an
intelligent man does. The way a guy dresses is very much different from a man.
The way a man talks is different from a guy. There is usually a sensational
aura to this classification of the male gender. Therefore, depending on her age
and wants, a woman will be more receptive to a particular type of guy. E.g. a
girl in her teens is more swayable by a guy than a boy (which is not largely
age dependent). Likewise a woman in her mid-twenties with the intention of
getting married soon will want to let go of guys and give men more
opportunities.
Her nature
It is said that women are the
most complex beings God made for men to comprehend. I agree with the ideology
of who so ever propounded it. This beautiful beings reason more emotionally
than logically. They think often with their hearts which are subtle and
flexible thus there is no law known to man that is applicable to women in
general, their decision making and want are ever changing. Things that ought to
work turn out to be a total sham while odd action turns out to work magic. You could
drool over a girl, shower her with compliments and gifts yet she will still
detest you and opt for the guy that ignores her and offers her nothing. It’s
never basic science with them; you could be rich and handsome yet still get
rejected.
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Her criteria
Some women have a checklist to
ascertain that they’ve found Mr. Right even though they know he doesn’t exist
in the real sense of the word. So they have high hopes and even higher ambitions
that surely he will come their way and so every other male folk that doesn’t
meet their standard is just a phony
until that so impossibly perfect ‘man’ walks up to them. Some of these men have
gone through the strain of mustering up courage to walk up to them, but since
they aren’t near the valuation of the prince charming they want, they get blown
off.
Ambition conflict
The female folk may turn down a
man because of the tendency of emotional distraction. Some women are just so
particular about their education and career and do not want to succumb to the
cravings of the men. With the advent of feminism that poisons women’s mind, the
increasing belief is that men’s aim at initiating a relationship is because
they want to subdue their exotic bodies, divine souls and productive minds so
as to feel good about themselves. They make themselves believe that they want
to focus on their career goals and probably later settle down with that man
that will understand who they truly are and so for that moment, the male folks
are just not in their interest.
Emotional insecurity
Their emotional insecurity is
also one of the reasons why they turn down men. The past experience could have
been very hurtful and they could still brooding and also yet to get over it. It
mars the trust they once had for men. To them every male folk is a sequel and
share much in common with the previous one. So they build walls to safeguard
them but unknowingly, they block out that decent guy who ought to mend their
brokenness. Some of them are not just ready to jump into a relationship, not
when they still have bags and baggage. They just want to unpack those negative
experiences and then air their dirty laundries to start afresh in due time.
Content of approach
To be factual, the content of
attitude, approach or looks and even time determine how women will respond to
you. Some of the male folks have very bad manners of approaches. Who still uses
archaic words to toast
a lady?! Cliché words really bore them. Sometimes your appearance kills the fantasy
they web. The below average thinking faculty ironically amuses them, manner of
speech does help to kill that moment a nicely body built man walks up to them
to say something just grammatically preposterous. Women are body language
experts so your lack of confidence, flinching and desperation which are noticed
with ease, kill your chances with them.
Materialism
Some women are extravagant and
materialistic. No woman is out of your league but if you’re not able to handle
them, don’t go for them. Before you approach some of them, their eyes have
already X-rayed your pocket, appraising your value and determining your
potential capacity to uphold them. It’s so disappointing to them if you don’t
measure up to the task. So they wonder what more do you want to waste their
time for. Nonetheless some have chosen to live a celibate life for personal
reasons best known them. Some men may think they aren’t sexually straight or have
too much attitude, but the fact is that you probably aren’t their type and some
need time and some don’t just need a male folk pending on the prevalent space
of time and situation. Well in a society as ours, when you find out that a 29
year old single lady who stills turns down the approaches of men yet really
wants to be with a man in her life, then you know that there’s is something
fishy and more than just meets the eye.
In some situations, it’s no fault
of the men. Some women are just uncouth and lacking in courtesy. Many women
need to realize that they’re just a speck of dust in the beach of the
population of beautiful women in the world. So be ladylike, courteous and be
subtle in your disinterest towards men. Cheers!
