STARVING THE GREEN MONSTER

Seen how the Hulk goes on rampage when you grab his damsel? The sight as we all know is quite disastrous; you wouldn’t want to be caught in between. I would bet not much is known about his cousin, Jealousy, the green monster that slowly creeps into the heart without making the slightest announcement, consumes us like wild fire and takes control of all senses and actions. The monster reveals itself when we are faced with the impending thought of losing someone of great value and importance. Someone we so much desire that we wouldn’t bear to lose. It’s natural animal instinct likewise human instinct to protect our territory, which comprises of things and individuals valuable to us. Being possessive and protective of our spouses is so also a way of protecting our territory which shows we care for them and value them.

Jealousy at hazardous levels causes havoc which gets you depressed, overly pessimistic and stirs up detrimental emotions, such as you feel insufficient with a great deal of hatred and revulsion emanating from your heart. It is of popular belief that jealousy is a major attribute of women, which most men, in some cases do well to hide better. It could be as result of the social stereotype that regards men as the more promiscuous sex, which many women are made to believe even though the actions of men have not been in any way helpful to disregard this assumption. Men are egotistic creatures. It is not to say that they do not get jealous but most men find being jealous a demeaning act as they are presumed to be the dominant and emotionally stronger sex. So men have stronger tolerance and restraint for keeping the green monster in chains. Studies and observations show jealous is not totally a thing of the sex, it as to do with the individual’s personality. Some people are just extremely jealous, it’s their nature, and they can’t help it. These kinds of people don’t do well with impending threats of losing their treasured ones to others even if the threat is not a potent one. This is usually born out of insecurities, neediness and lack of self confidence. These are what the green monster feeds on and this kind of people invites the green monster to a buffet.

I personally believe that when you get jealous, it’s because you care, so also nothing is good in excess. Feeding the green monster often, such that it gains strength and unleashes itself in the most terrible ways is an evidence of insecurity, low self esteem and lack of self confidence. As much as you care about him or her, it still doesn’t mean you should lose yourself. When you lose yourself and cause chaos, penitence might not just be enough to save your relationship. So you should see yourself as the prize, have the mind frame of being irreplaceable, stitch it in your brain and heart that your partner will be the one at a loss if he or she decides to cheat or leave you. Though you might not be exact equals in social standing and career status, still believe in your worth and strive to get better and raise your station

Yes, you are involved with him/her, but it still doesn’t make billions of the female /male world population to cease to exist. Even if your partner isn’t so much of a “hottie”, the opposite sex will always continue to make passes at him/her as long as they find your lover desirable. So get your acts together, don’t go breaking heads, demonstrate high value, kill your insecurities and subconsciously tell your partner that although you’re hanging out with him/her, I’m not threatened because I know I have more to offer you and I’m better. ALERT!!!! If it becomes a routine to meet or catch your spouse in suggestive situations with the opposite sex, you’re permitted to break heads and let all hell loose probably after verbal resolution fails. Concisely moderation is vital.

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