WHY YOUR SPOUSE’S PHONE IS AN ONION

I must have died from choking on an onion bulb in my first life, it probably made me to resent its very existence. Its repulsive smell stirs up my stomach like an unforgiving cake mixer and makes me want to puke. It still puzzles me why prehistoric men decided to eat a vegetable that makes you cry. In its vile nature, it comprises of several layers and as you peel further it makes you cry the more. She just left for the bathroom and fortunately for you she left her mobile. No feeling could be more tempting than the one you’re feeling right now; you want to check her messages, emails and read her chat so bad. Don’t do it!!! You will only stir up negative feelings.

When we get involved in relationships, the feeling of us being played or cheated on lingers in our heart. It’s a natural phenomenon for most people, which in most cases are born out of bitter experiences from past relationships. As this is an ever present feeling, the need to know continues to haunt us, so we go James bond on our partners at every opportunity that presents itself, with the objectives of spying and intercepting enemy (opposite sex) messages. If only you knew that even the most harmless of all messages could be misinterpreted.

As technology is now so advanced, women need not to check for lipstick stains on their man’s collar. The men now have cyber-collars which get stained more than often with the infidelity the internet promotes. Women often times than many have been caught snooping in their partner’s facebook and twitter account, also in their emails, text messages and chatting apps. The act usually spurred by a hunch of infidelity, for others it’s instinctive of them to pry while for some, they can’t just overcome the temptation.

Your partner’s phone is an onion. The more you go deep into it, the more likely you’re to cry. As it is known that people who go looking for trouble will always find it, which is also applicable to searching your partner’s phone for God knows what you could be looking for. A simple message read with sentiments could be understood by you in the wrong context and assumed to be flirtatious or sexually suggestive. In truth and in all transparency the message could just be their way of having an interesting conversation, yet it gets you troubled and series of negative scenarios start playing in your head. I for one, I get lots of newsletters on my email that I don’t even know how or when I subscribed to them. Provocative newsletters like “meet hot chicks that are ready for you”, “how to last longer in bed” etc. If my partner then reads my email, not only will she think I’m cheating, she will probably think am a pervert having inadequacy issues. Let’s say your sixth sense tells you he is cheating, you then decide to intrude his privacy, unfortunately for you, your guts were right. He had been cheating on you with Susan. Like the outstanding FBI agent that you’re, you’ve got enough incriminating chats, messages and pictures to confront him. You feel hurt, heartbroken and betrayed, but more like a douche for going through his phone without his consent. This is because at that moment, you’re in no way better than him or Susan. You’re the one with the trust issue and you’re the monster that intruded his privacy.



Privacy is a sacred thing and it should be kept and treated as such. Aside checking pictures, prying into your partner’s phone is a major trespass, it never ends well. There is always a sick feeling that comes with it even if your suspicions are true and worse if your partner is as clean as a whistle. You could tell your GF to show you her facebook inbox; then you will know that there are so many desperate and perverted individuals of the male specie that want her so bad and her only fault is because she is beautiful and friendly. A jealous guy comes across this and makes a huge fuss about it, looks stupid and eventually hurts his relationship. None of us will want anyone to check whatever we might have browsed on or searched on Google without our consent, however innocent these things could be. Google is actually my best friend, I used to check how to kiss when I was so naïve and certainly I wouldn’t have wanted anybody to come across this. I know you’ve googled worse (points finger). Their phone is a black book, their personal diary and it should be respected. We won’t be our actual selves if we don’t hold things back for ourselves. These things are part of our identity and we probably don’t want you to know about them. Some things are just confidential and should be accepted as such.



Imagine an alternate universe, in which you were not the snoopy type, things could have been different. You wouldn’t have felt the negative emotions attributed with finding out that he or she was probably cheating. He/She probably would get over the person and stick with you. You probably wouldn’t have ruined the surprise they had planned for you, he/she would have trusted you more and your relationship would have been blissful.



What you don’t know will certainly not bother or hurt you. You’re responsible for your happiness and you have no control over the actions of others. It’s never a nice feeling when you’re at the other end and you’re been interrogated over something your partner must have seen on your phone, particularly if it’s harmless. Jealousy is cute but it could be straight out obnoxious. So respect their privacy and avoid dating people that always raise your suspicions or people you have little trust for, because in truth such relationships are bound to crash. In your own opinion you could claim it brought you justice, so also is it through that you could have avoided a lot of heart aches, heart breaks and mistrust issues if you had avoided peeling the onion. When you do, it’s most likely you find and it’s more certain that you cry.